Saturday, June 24, 2017

8:25 a.m. on a Saturday morning

My kids are still sleeping. I have had my coffee and am contemplating my day and thinking about what a roller coaster ride the last year has been.

It was this time last year when the hubster took the buy-out from work and amped up the stress level at home. It was a good decision, but that doesn't mean the seven months of job searching weren't stressful for everyone. A job offer in January brought some relief from the anxiety of the unknown but, naturally, started whole new anxieties.

It's been three months since he relocated to start his new job. And my stress has shifted to single parenting (with the help of my large village), preparing a house to sell (while still living in it with three kids), and the mental and emotional preparation (of myself and the kids) to move across country.

I am nervous about being back on the East Coast. My inner hippie/punk rocker has loved Oregon. I anticipate feeling out of step on the opposite coast. I am excited to be moving closer to family. Twelve years with no family in easy driving distance has been challenging and expensive. I am nervous about getting my children integrated into a new community. I am also excited about integrating them into a new community and hope they develop new, strong friendships and maintain the old ones like I was able to do when we moved around when I was younger.

So yeah mixed feelings.

But alas there is too much to do to stay in this contemplative state. Today we are hosting our fourth open house since our home went on the market almost two months ago. We have had four offers that didn't work out for one reason or another. And I can't adequately express how ready I am for this house to sell and this item on the pre-move checklist to be checked off and remain checked off.

It's 8:59 a.m. I suppose it's time to wake the children so that we can get ready for the day and clean the house again. Or maybe I'll just have another cup of coffee.


Monday, July 28, 2014

I bristle at expectations

I wonder if it's a Sagittarius thing. Or maybe a first-born thing? Or maybe a personality trait from being mainly a blue on the Colors personality test. Or whatever...

Who knows really. I just find it interesting that I don't like people expecting things of me. Because I don't wanna, and you can't make me. That's seriously one of my favorite phrases and my general attitude.

Hmm family, was I always like this? I guess there is a reason my husband calls me contrary.

Current mood: amused :-p

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Proof that I love my kids

I went camping. And not just camping--tent camping. If that's not proof to them that they are loved, I don't know what is.

The whole packing up a bunch of stuff to prepare for every eventuality and then doing my mommy job just, you know, outside without the comforts of home has never been appealing to me. BUT my kids have been asking to go camping. And my mom's club group was going, and they are experienced campers. So I sucked it up and went.

The most stressful part for me was all the preparation. We have a tent and sleeping bags because my son's in Scouts and camps. But we don't have a bunch of other camping-related stuff. Cue (or queue...I don't feel like looking it up) wonderful neighbor! Thanks Michelle for letting us borrow things Ethan wanted us to go out and buy and therefore guilt me into camping again since we'd have the "stuff."

Meal planning it's my favorite thing when we're home. But it's kinda necessary when camping. And then figuring out how to cook the meals when you cant just go into the kitchen. Ugh! Yeah just typing this up is stressing me out again, and we're back home.

So anyway, I went. Ethan took care of most of the set up. He managed to build a fire once. Lucky for us we were camping with knowledgeable friends with gear because we needed said gear to cook the hot dogs for lunch when he couldn't get a second fire going. Thanks Erin! And we needed to borrow a lighter when he used all the fluid in ours getting that first fire going. Thanks Laura! Oh and let's not forget the air pump we forgot and both bikes needed air in the tires. Thanks Laura! And it was so wonderful to have someone else make the coffee so I didn't have to remember how to use the percolator I borrowed. Thanks Janet!

Overall it was OK. We had running water and a clean bathroom nearby plus we were across from the playground. My kids had fun and that was the point. Don't know that I'll be doing it again any time soon though.

Thursday, July 3, 2014

You know what's good?

Naps! Naps are good.

Music! Music is good. Especially when a certain 12-year-old is writing his own stuff and collaborating with other musicians. So cool!

Books! Books are good. Escapism is kinda my thing.

Friends! Friends are good especially when they keep you on task and cheer you on. I could use a bit more of that right now friends.

Summer! Summer is good. I am enjoying not having to set an alarm. It's a highlight of my day.

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

Girl Scout camp week

For the 3rd year, my kids and I are at Girl Scout day camp. This is the first year I haven't been totally stressed out about everything. My co-leader and I have 14 5th graders. They are a great group of girls and are having a great time together. All the same, I am counting down. 3 more days to go! I don't know what it is about camp that tires me out so much. We haven't even done our hike yet. That's tomorrow. But 9-3 is a long time with someone else's children, even sweet ones. I don't know how teachers do it! Oh and the outdoors...ugh! The first thing we do when we get home is wash the outdoors (and bug spray) off. Should be interesting when I take the kids overnight camping next month.

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Speech making...

It didn't come out exactly like this...but this is the speech I wrote.

I don't know about you but after the awards ceremony last night I am more than a little star struck. And generally that has me fluctuating between two points of view. On the one hand, I think "oh yeah I want to have my name called as many times as Kathy Hughes." How cool would that be? But then the pendulum immediately swings to "what am I crazy, I could never do that!" So today, as I share a little of my story, I want y'all to think about taking things one step at a time with me no matter where you currently are in your Usborne business.

I started with Usborne at the end of October, 7 years ago. I came to my first convention that following June and saw all the sparkly tiaras and heard all the speakers and was equally excited and overwhelmed. And thought quite honestly that whole team leader thing was not for me. And executive leader or director...yeah right!

NancyAnn Wartman, Ruth Smith...Tom and Becky Dean, and the many, many others...just like celebrities and just like I though of Hollywood celebrities I thought that's so not me.

So for the next 5 years I worked what I would call my July to December fun job. I scheduled parties because I wanted a mom's night out. I worked the holiday season because I wanted to buy Christmas gifts. Did my upline tell me, you should think about becoming a team leader? Sure. But I still didn't think it was for me. I was happy with my July to December fun job thank you very much.

Then at that 5 year mark something started to change. The Connect 4 iPad challenge was the beginning of that. I DECIDED I wanted an iPad, and it was something that I never would buy for myself. So for the first time, I actually made an effort to schedule parties and events for January through May. For the first time I had a goal larger than making sure I had a few mom's nights out. And guess what? I earned the iPad. And it felt good.

I liked that feeling of accomplishment so much that I needed another goal. So I DECIDED that I wanted to have a 40th birthday celebration in Vegas using my Usborne earnings. And guess what? I did.

But here's the thing. I was happy just being a consultant. I was happy working when I wanted to. Not worrying about any numbers. Helping people who wanted to join but not really having any responsibility for them...after all that was my upline's job.

But then...and there's always a but then...my son wanted to attend School of Rock. He's 12, an excellent guitarist who loves to be on stage. And when your kid has a talent what else is there to do but support him. So THAT was my trigger. That extra $150 a month to send my kid to a performance program was what made me DECIDE to promote. And when I decide to do something, I do it. I have the iPad and 40th birthday memories to prove it!

And here's the kicker that one decision didn't just lead me to team leader. Working consistently and paying attention to my sales numbers and actually looking at all those cool little trackers on the back office also meant knowing that I was incredibly close to making President's Club during the previous round. Who knew? Well Tanya Sanchez knew since it was her post on Facebook that prompted me to look!

But as the saying goes knowledge is power. Once I realized how close I was to making President's Club. I figured why not try? With a little extra effort and a lot of help from my team, I earned it. So that brings us to November when I promoted to team leader and gave myself the raise I needed to pay for School of Rock (maybe I should send them a thank you note).

And trust me that felt wonderful. Even more so now that my oldest daughter, who's turning 8 next week, has been invited up to gymnastics team, which of course comes with a higher price tag and competition fees and competition Leo's, etc, etc.

But you know what other tracker I was watching during this time? The trip tracker! Making that decision to promote to team leader to pay this one additional bill now had me within shouting distance of the Atlantis trip. It would be nice to say I had this all planned out, but I didn't. At this point I just thought...hey my husband and I went to the Bahamas for our honeymoon 15 years ago. Wouldn't it be cool to take him back? Wouldn't it be cool to achieve a trifecta?

I was at ALR at NancyAnn's impromptu hallway session on ideas for quick sales for those close to earning the incentive trip. And someone mentioned book drives in general and Tabitha Roach's book drive for foster kids in particular. Brain wave! I can get closer to Atlantis while helping someone other than myself? I certainly wasn't going to say, "come on team you're slacking, send me to the Bahamas." But I had no problem saying "let's get non-fiction beginners into the hands of every Head Start student in our county. And besides the feel good factor, here's what's in it for you." In those two weeks in January, we collected enough funds to donate 424 books to Head Start. Talk about your feel good moments.

So to recap, I decided to promote to team leader after 7 years with the company and at least 5 years of my upline encouraging me to all because of a new kid activity. During this time I actually paid attention to all those cool trackers home office provides and made a little extra effort to earn President's Club. I decided to attend ALR, which spurred the book drive idea that helped me the rest of the way to the incentive trip. And yeah I got a pretty cool honorable mention last night!

What do I want you to take away from this? First, reevaluate your why on a regular basis. Has what you need from your business changed? Second, make a decision and make an action plan to achieve it. And be prepared for some happy coincidences along the way. Third, pay attention to trackers home office provides. It's harder to meet a goal if you're not paying attention to where you are. And finally keep up with your training and networking and apply the knowledge and ideas of those tiara-wearing super stars.

I still fluctuate between "oh my gosh, I want to walk across the stage a bunch of times" and "ugh, that so not me." But this weekend I am taking a deep breath and taking one step at a time. Because who knows what my 4-year-old daughter is going to be into!

So I ask you, what decisions are you making for your business? Because while a journey of a thousand miles may begin with a single step...first you need to decide to take a walk.

Thursday, June 19, 2014

June 19 10:45pm CT

I should be out of my room socializing and networking. But I think I am done for the day and ready to sit and read my book. I went to a team lunch and was social and got to walk across the stage for a couple of reasons (new team leader and convention speaker). So that was enough "on" time I think. Next up was a trip to the bargain bookstore where I bought some books for my kiddos at 75% off. There are SO MANY books in that room that I couldn't even think. I did get new catalogs though so I am excited about that!

June 19 10:30 CT

I slept in. Nice! No little people climbed in bed with me and woke me up. That's one of the great things about convention. A little me time. A little cuddle up with my roomie in the middle of the night time. LOL I don't think I did that really. I guess is should ask to make sure. I have had my morning coffee and officially registered for convention. Which leaves 2 hours before I have to be at the leader luncheon. So yeah let's share the fabulous books that came in my bag. The cool thing about this is that I paid what about $180 to come to convention. And $74 of that came back to me in new titles to bring home. And that would be awesome in itself. But I also earned the Connect 4 consistency award which means my convention registration was already refunded to me...plus some other goodies. Yay! I think I am coming out ahead. So oh yeah wanna see the books? You can see them in person at Becky's party next week and/or at my ice cream social the week after. Everything should be officially available to order on July 1.

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

June 18 5pm Central

The last time I flew out for an Usborne conference we got a flat tire on the way to the airport, and I just barely made my flight. I am happy to say that this trip was way less eventful! I am in Tulsa, Oklahoma. "Paradise" as Randall White, the Usborne Books & More President and CEO calls it. Well I don't know about that. I might reserve the term for that Bahamas incentive trip I recently went on. Anyway, I am here. I am still kinda sad that I didn't make President's Club this time around. So I won't be going with my Uzzie buddies to see Wicked tonight. But at the same time I am super excited that my teammate Deb Weidman has landed and is on her way to the hotel as I type. After checking in, the first thing I did of course was check out the new title display. Here are some pictures. I wonder what freebies we'll get to bring home.

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Aliyah's Rain Poem

Rain
Rain looks like water from a shower spout
Rain smells like a chilly morning breeze
Rain tastes like salt from the ocean
Rain feels like lots of taps on your body
Rain sounds like beads falling on the ground
Rain is the heavens crying
Their tears make life

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

What happens in 6 months

In the 6 months since I forgot I had a blog and was supposed to be writing and housework avoiding, some things have happened. I have still managed to avoid housework, that much hasn't changed. And I have continued on with the raising of my children, that's a given. Here are some highlights to catch us up.

1. We drove to California and saw the Redwoods. Those TREES! Just thinking of them still brings tears to my eyes. So beautiful and so full of the glory of God. Just overwhelmingly amazing.

2. The hubster and I celebrated 15 years of marriage with a couple of days away from the kiddos in San Diego. We did nothing really touristy, so I feel like we need to go back. The sun and the surf are calling me.

3. My kids started 6th and 2nd grades and pre-K. I have been feeling very sentimental so far this school year about my oldest two being in the same school for the last time. And just the thought of the years ahead for middle school and high school is enough to give me a panic attack. I have no idea how I am going to get through this. Pray for me Saints!

4. My parents left this coast and moved to New York. We are back to being alone in the West. Sad, sad, sad.

5. I turned 41.

6. I had a busy Usborne fall. I'd set a goal to promote to team leader and give myself an 11% raise, which happened in November. Yay! In the midst of that, I happened to look at the President's Club tracker (thanks to a Facebook post from fellow Uzzie Tanya Sanchez) and saw that I was really close to making President's Club (an incentive program designed to encourage, promote and recognize group growth). I decided "oh maybe I should try." Yes that was exactly my attitude "Oh MAYBE I should TRY." So I did a little pushing in October with the help of my teammates and made the President's Club. Yay! And then in December I realized I was pretty close to earning the incentive trip to the Atlantis Resort in the Bahamas. Wouldn't it be really cool, a trifecta even, to earn the trip, too?  And with LOTS OF HELP from my TEAMMATES, FRIENDS, CUSTOMERS, HOSTESSES and EVERYONE who has ever known me and supported my Usborne business, I made it! YAY!

So THANK YOU! I think this deserves a Bahama Mamma party!

What will the next 6 months bring?

Saturday, August 10, 2013

Saturday

I woke up this morning around 8:30. None of my kids were awake yet and no children were in my bed. (Score!) By 9 everyone was up, and I was making pancakes, eggs, and bacon for breakfast. Then guess what happened. My son asked what he could do to help. (I think he was really hungry.) So he learned to make pancakes this morning.

I spent the rest of the morning and early afternoon wandering from room to room reading my book. Guess why I kept moving. Kids kept following me. I finally finished my book though. Then I took a nap. Sadly it kept getting interrupted, and after an hour I got up to find toys everywhere. Yes they were probably there earlier, too, but I was reading so I didn't care. But because my book was done, it was time to clean up. It's amazing how much cleaner the house looks when the kids pick up all the stuff they have left in every room of the house.

That inspired me to sweep and that inspired to wash the dishes. I think this particular inspiration draws a line at cleaning the bathroom though. Another book is calling my name. So I think I will feed the children dinner, as they were on their own for lunch, and go find a quiet spot to read until they find me again.

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Why didn't I think of that?

I should be in bed. I have been yelling for my kids to go to bed to over an hour. I still hear them whispering in bed. So while I wait for them to settle down, and not sneak downstairs for candy, I am up playing on Facebook and looking through some of the files other Usborne consultants nationwide have posted.

I am happy that other Uzzies (as we call ourselves) are so helpful and willing to share. I think it's one of the things that makes the culture of our company great. And because I have plenty of time to spend looking through the hundreds of files, as my kids are still whispering and planning a candy raid, I am bound to find a few gems.

Under the category of "why didn't I think of that," we have a lovely $100 challenge that I am gleefully borrowing/stealing. The gist: collect $100 in orders and receive $100 in free and discounted books. Yep! You and I can so do that, right?

The breakdown on the free/discounts:
$15 free (more for sales over $150)
$20 at 75% off
$25 at 65% off
$25 at 50% off
$15 at 25% off

I would love to have 4 people (anywhere in the U.S.) to try this out for me this month. What do you have to lose? That's right nothing to lose and free and discounted books to gain. And it would help me out because honestly with vacations and the like my business calendar for August looks pretty lame.

Who's in?

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

But is it goal-worthy?

I am trying to pick a goal...something concrete to work toward. I am having an issue deciding though.

Technically, I have a goal to promote to team leader with Usborne this fall. And while I want it and believe in the company, I have trouble with goals that involve other people. I know that I should look at it as helping others. Usborne may be just thing someone needs in their life. I get that, but depending on others doesn't really sit well with me. Nope I was never a fan of the team projects in school either. You might have guessed that.

So I still need a goal. Last year I had the goal to earn the iPad. I did. Then I had the goal to use my Usborne earnings to pay for my 40th birthday trip to Vegas. I did. But all this year I have been struggling to come up with some proper motivation.

This lack of motivation goes beyond business, of course. I have no motivation to eat right or exercise either. And the motivation to be a domestic diva has never been there. Shocking!

While I know no one can determine my goal for me or even motivate me when I stubbornly refuse to be motivated, I am interested to know what my friends are working toward right now...professionally, personally, whatever. Share!

Friday, July 19, 2013

3 Mini Book Reviews

While sorting orders recently, I took some time to read two of our Kane Miller books that I'd never seen before as well as to refamiliarize myself with one of my Usborne favorites. Here are my mini reviews.

The Dog Who Loved Red
By Anitha Balachandran

Raja has a super red-sensing ability, which he uses to chew all manner of red things. Until a trip to the park takes him on a colorful, heroic adventure to find a lost red ball. Love the story, love the fun color exploration, love the ending.

Half of an Elephant
By Gusti

Find out what happens when the world splits in half and all the animals lose half of themselves. Most noteworthy in this book are the illustrations. Gusti used digital images of discarded objects "to show children that art can be created from objects that usually end up in the garbage can."

Art Treasury

Learn about a famous piece of art and its artist then follow the 6-step (or fewer) instructions to create your own piece in the same style. Steps include words and illustrations. Book includes 22 different artists/projects. It is a must have for all art lit programs. Artists include van Gogh, Rousseau, Kandinsky, O'Keeffe, and many others.

Friday, May 31, 2013

Summer reading challenge idea

I just listened to a training...yep crazy ideas come out of those things! So I thought I'd put this idea out into the universe and see what response I got. Who would be interested in a summer reading challenge?

Yes I know the library does one, and yes I always sign my kids up for that one. But that doesn't mean I can't do one, too, right?

Similarities to the library's summer reading program: Read! Track it! Get some prizes (TBD)!

Goal: 600 minutes read in 6 weeks (and yes reading time for the library challenge counts for this)

Differences: Collect pledges for time read. Use 75% of your personal pledges to order fabulous Usborne books for your home. Donate 25% of pledges locally so that kids with few books at home can benefit. Yes that's 100% of funds going toward quality books. (Collecting pledges is not mandatory but a cool way to reward reading and help others at the same time.)

Program would run July 1 to August 12 and would include 4 park play days (not mandatory but fun)

  • kick-off day- July 1
  • science day- July 22
  • art day/pledges & book selections due - August 12
  • celebration day - August 26
Do I have 10 or more local-to-me families willing to go on this journey with me?




Monday, April 1, 2013

6 More Party Themes w/ Book Favor Ideas

As promised, here are more popular party themes with affordable ($6.99 or less per favor) Usborne/Kane Miller books or activity cards as favor options. Activity cards are always the most cost-effective option as the 50 cards can be split up, tied with a ribbon, and paired with a Dollar Store dry-erase pen for an easy favor. When you have 10 or fewer guests, any of these options can really make sense. And hosting a book show and earning your book favors for free is always a smart way to go. You can order any of these titles or find out about hosting at http://www.enjoygoodbooks.com.

Pirates



Picture of Uncle Pete's Pirate AdventurePicture of Pirates First Coloring Book Picture of My First Pirate BookPicture of Pirates (Level 2) - IRPicture of First Dot-to-Dot Pirates

Transportation

Most cost-effective:

Picture of Big Machines to Spot   Picture of 50 Things to Spot at the Airport

Other options:

Picture of Build a Picture Cars Sticker BookPicture of Trucks Sticker BookPicture of Build a Picture Trucks Sticker BookPicture of Building Site Sticker BookPicture of First Sticker Book TrainsPicture of Trains IRPicture of Planes IRPicture of Build a Picture Trains Sticker BookPicture of Going on a PlanePicture of Going on a Plane Sticker Book

Under the Sea

Most cost-effective:

Picture of Sharks Fact Cards

Other options:

Picture of 1,2,3…By the SeaPicture of Under the Sea (Level 1) - IRPicture of What's Under the Sea?   Picture of Dot to Dot on the SeashorePicture of Seashore - IRPicture of Under the Sea Chunky Board BookPicture of Why the Sea is Salty  FR4Picture of Shark in the Park Picture of Sharks - IR (Level 1)Picture of Puzzle OceanPicture of True Sea Stories

Secret Agent

Most cost-effective:

Picture of 50 Secret Codes

Other options (best for 8-10 year olds):

Picture of True Spy StoriesPicture of Story of Spying

Space

Most cost-effective:

Picture of Astronomy and Space Fact Cards        Picture of 100 Things to Spot in the Night Sky

Other options:

Picture of Dot to Dot in SpacePicture of Living in Space (Level 2) - IRPicture of Night Sky Spotter's Guide ILPicture of Solar System IRPicture of Sun, Moon and Stars (Level 2) - IR

Wizards & Magic


Picture of Oliver Moon and the Dragon DisasterPicture of Oliver Moon and the Nipperbat Nightmare


Choose any of the eight Oliver Moon titles for $4.99 each. Great for the budding Harry Potter fan who's not quite ready to tackle those large tomes, but has an interest in the magical world. For ages 7 and up.


Picture of Wizard Things to Make and DoPicture of Magical Animals  YR1Picture of Sorcerer's Apprentice  YR1